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by rorymarinich 17y ago
I think that the porn thing was pretty tasteless on the part of the presenter. But a part of being civil is avoiding confrontations that you don't have to be in. I used to feel really uncomfortable attending religious services because I was
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
If I act like an asshole, then when people get mad at me for being an asshole I'm to blame. If I reject people for not being smarter than I am, then if they get mad at me I'm to blame. I agree. You are responsible for yourself but nobody el
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
I've been invited to meet people I respect deeply because they liked some of the stuff I did. One of my close friends opened for Kimya Dawson; another friend of mine won a national poetry award. I find that the people I know who have succee
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
That's largely what I was trying to say. I use "nerd" in a very narrow sense: most nerdy people I don't consider to be nerds. I don't think I'm a nerd, for instance. The toughest group to join was that nerd group, at least in my HS. I assu
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
In his Why Nerds Are Unpopular essay, I think he absolutely is extrapolating. I've read that essay many times. I guess in some ways this could be called a response, but it wasn't directly inspired by his writing.
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
I was in the same boat as you. I still find most people boring. Yesterday I wrote a post about misanthropy that I think was a lot better than this one. I'm still at the point where I just don't like most people, especially in groups. It's a
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Heh. That's usually how it is. If you actually follow the advice, it works, but it's hard. I forget who said this but it's true: "The secret to success is no secret."
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
It's a false dichotomy, because people don't care if you're socially awkward. I personally love shy people. Lots of people do. So I know the fear exists, but it's a false fear. The risk is nonexistent because social failure doesn't mean wha
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
I think it's funny that you think you can solve this problem, and that we can all live in egalitarian bliss. You know that you're the reason I wrote this article, right? This is exactly the HN attitude that made me freeze my main accoun
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Because the Rails community understands that they are not a community for any other reason other than Rails. Do I approve of nudity in a presentation? No. But at the same time, even if I found it offensive, I wouldn't turn it into a huge ar
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
To be completely honest, if I were to go back to elementary school and look at when I first started being divided from other kids, I'm almost certain it would have begun with me being an arrogant brat because of my intelligence. When you're
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
...That's almost exactly what my article was about. It was that smart people exist in every group, and so by trying to use intelligence as an excuse for rejection you're causing trouble where there shouldn't be any. I mean, considering I'
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
It makes people happy. My mother has found old high school friends - old high school crushes , even - and met up with people who left her life a long time ago. A friend of mine in Washington D.C. uses it to organize all her groups of frien
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
What browser/OS are you using? The shadows have been tricky - on Safari they look vastly better than on other browsers, and I've been trying to get it not to look tacky. I might disable them entirely for non-Safari browsers. Agree with you
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
What's the risk for nerds? When I developed the attitude I've got now, the one that accepts my faults and doesn't immediately get nasty, the change in people was almost immediate. Most people really would rather like you than dislike you, a
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
My implication is that the tormented as not wholly innocent. Of course I don't agree with bullying. I'm not a huge fan of violence, particularly not for stupid shit like school. But there's an attitude amongst this type of person that says
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Is that what HTWFAIP is about? I've never read it. (Also: is it a good read, or is it overrated?) (Also also: I agree. This should not be here.)
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
You wrote about the world that everyone experiences, and essentially told a bunch of other people that they are wrong about their own experiences. Is it wrong to say that when they are? I don't know everything. I only know my specific nar
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Not necessarily with introverts, but with introverts who believe that their introversion is why people don't like them. There are introvert athletes and actors and musicians, but they're more popular in society. One of the quote-unquote coo
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Perhaps it's not my place to say this, since this is an attack on me, but it's sad that something like this got 4 points on Hacker News. It adds nothing to the conversation and is roundly negative. Now that you've insulted me and called me
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
I do. My particular group of friends includes nerds and hipsters and radical liberals and libertarians and volleyball players and a whole bunch of people who I hang out with because of who they are and what they do. This isn't my writing ab
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Elaborate, if you don't mind.
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
This is the world that I know. I write about it. Very often I find that I'm wrong about something, and when I do I write about that as well. Are you saying that a young, bright 18-year-old shouldn't write at all because he knows that most o
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Personally I find the notion that "I define myself as a programmer" offensive. Programming is something I do, and I do it reasonably well, but at the end of the day it's only one of many things I do, and it's certainly not "who I am." I a
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
That's not irony. Irony would be if this piece was telling people not to be negative and hostile. I'm merely informing people that their negativity stems from bad places. I've written an explanation as to why I write the way I do before, bu
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
Are you so certain it's hierarchical in nature? The difference between a jock and a band geek is that the jock will resort to violence to defend himself. I've pranked jocks before with groups of band geeks. It often leads to a scuffle. When
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
But I never did it to be "elite", or to keep the other person "below" me. Instead, I always assumed that the cheerleader (or whomever it was) was playing a very nasty practical joke on me—that if I accepted, they'd laugh in my face and wan
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
I spent all my time on computers, I played Dungeons & Dragons. I spent all my time up until I was about 15 being shat on, and being incredibly angry because I thought I was being persecuted for my intelligence. Then, in my sophomore yea
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by rorymarinich 17y ago
As of right now, the theme that I'm using breaks entirely in Internet Explorer. I've had it up for about a week and haven't had the time to determine just why that is. The text simply won't display. So I put that up for the time being, know