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by publicdebates 9mo ago
From my perspective and the people I'm trying to reach out to, they basically need someone to help them see that they are cared about and valued, someone to ask them how their day is over coffee with no strings attached, and not becaus
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
This definitely helps a little. But the other part of loneliness is feeling like (or knowing that) nobody cares what you think or feel or have to say. I've been (accidentally) helping people with my surveys for a few months now. It bri
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Definitely, yes. But I figure, the people I'm trying to reach are basically only ever outside when they're talking to the grocery store and back. That's the only time to catch them, if ever. So this is my only shot. I do st
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
> 3. Decreased American tolerance for and ability to handle awkwardness, and there's always going to be some awkwardness in social interactions. I wonder how much of this is due to our ever increasing sense of obligation to be &quot
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
> I've posted about this before, but my wife and I sort of accidentally started a trivia team that's been going strong for like four years. I looked through your history and can't find it. (And you say "trivial"
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I see young people facetiming each other all the time, maybe a little too much. It definitely fills the same role as audio calls used to. But I just text. I remember when texting started to become a thing, and I was very much looking forwar
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Sure, but this only works as advice for people who you can talk to, such as me. I'm not trying to solve my loneliness, my own personal goal is to find ways to reach out to people who sit alone all day, and are dying from loneliness,
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Someone said he said something rude in front of his friend, and is worried she will think badly about him, and asked what to do to fix it. I said there's no turning back now, time to double down, call her fat and ugly, and punch her do
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Agree to disagree. And as soon as I get to 500, I'm going to downvote his comment on principle alone, even if it happens next week. I'm not mad, and it's not about anything other than acting on what I believe to be right.
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Sorry no, I think you misunderstood. For the whole thread, it's open-ended. People can brainstorm whatever they want to based on the title. It's good that it's ambiguous. The more conversations, the better. But for me, I&#x27
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Thanks. I've been considering potentially starting a non-profit that accepts donations, to be able to afford to do this more often.
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Actually I am open to the idea of an (minimalistic, non-profit) app helping solve this. What kind of app, I'm not sure, but I'm open to all ideas, including technology based ones. I only said that because you reminded me of an ide
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
A young woman explained to me the other week what you're doing now. She said it's become a meme called Bean Soup. I'm grateful for all the friends I've made since I starting doing my signs. Genuinely fulfilling friendshi
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I've thought a lot about this since you wrote it. I do wonder if this could become a pyramid activity. One problem is that it has to be people who are relatively comfortable talking to strangers, which by definition excludes the main p
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
First, sorry for what you're going through. Also, your situation is definitely an outlier that I can't focus my main efforts on. Maybe someone else is meant for that. But I'm curious, why not have friends over? Is anything li
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
> the social opportunities that existed in the 70's through the 90's simply doesn't exist anymore Does it have to be that way? Is there a way to bring back "the social outdoors" of those days? To recreate it?
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I can't promise I'll try, but I'll try to try.
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I was with you up until you said policy was the solution. No, action must come first. Policy needs people to agree on it, and can take a long time to enact. Action can be done now, and allows experimentation and disagreement. I am looking
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I appreciate the sentiment, but knowing that it's entirely coming from you and your experiences, and nothing to do with me and my own personality except for the one thing we have somewhat in common, means that your comment is to me mer
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
That's my point. How can I tell the difference? One of my ideas was legitimately to just hold a giant sign that just says "hi" I had this idea a few months ago, but never wanted to waste a whole Sunday on it. Maybe I should.
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I can only speak anecdotally from what I have seen in TikTok videos and TikTok comments, and yes, a significant portion of people in society are very depressed, and drinking/smoking/screwing their way through it, putting on a Joke
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I wrote that comment back when he had only one or two links, and this post had 4 comments anod 2 points. I stand by what I said: I wish I could have downvoted it for being a low effort drive by comment.
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Omegle + TikTok sounds like a very bad idea .
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
This is something I absolutely would not feel comfortable doing unless I was warmly encouraged to join in, that's how I've been turned into a social outcast in my youth. I know some people who for a fact feel the same way. Maybe o
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Reminds me of a non-alcoholic beer.
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
TikTok does in fact remind you, quite often, that you've been scrolling for a while, and suggests taking a break. Last year, for most of each day, I would just ignore this and keep scrolling. I'd see it so many times each day. T
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
This has been my experience with meeting people at churches, too. They always seem like they're only talking to you either to get you to become a member or to satisfy their own conscience, but never because of you . And it's been
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
I thought of this the other day. I was on the train ride back from Chicago, and there was a family of four adults, sitting across from me, all just staring at their phones. I was effectively alone at that point in time. None of them were pr
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
Sure, but what about the people who don't do this ? Those who sit at home all day, scrolling away, drinking themselves to death, wondering why life is so lonely. The only time you ever see such people is when they're walking to t
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by publicdebates 9mo ago
HN has some odd people that don't jump to tech solutions for everything. Plus I'm banned from reddit for 3 days for making a dark joke, and besides, my reddit post asking the same thing went nowhere. At least people here engage in

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