justonceokay

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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I don’t know it’s a toss up for me. I would say anecdotally about 1/4 of business owners I know are community pillars and truly get along with most everyone. The other 3/4 are forced into business ownership because they struggle t
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Yes it’s not that it’s bad, it just means you aren’t done yet
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
It’s funny you say that because the China “anti regulatory effect” of the 90s-2000s also had a great impact on quality of life for the world in its own way
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
There will be a great arbitrage for people who do not use LLMs. If your HR department is using ChatGPT to filter resumes, you’ll end up with people who used ChatGPT to generate resumes. I don’t want to make a “slippery slope“ argument, but
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Im gay and because of that was disowned. My partner has a brother “K” and K has three children. Watching K show up in basic ways for his kids, like remembering what songs they like and teaching them sports is the fastest way to make me ugly
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
> some might say Well do you say it or are you just playing devils advocate? The post you are responding to seems very straightforward. If you wanna go all philosophical, “real” might just be anything that is useful. In that way infinity
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I’m reminded (as I frequently am) of Vernor Vinge’s sci fi novels. In A Fire Upon the Deep, the main character comes to the realization that all civilizations collapse when the web of legal and supply chain dependencies collapses in on its
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Even if it was a requirement, doctors do not generally have legal authority to compel action. Hell, the average doctor would probably agree that the average patient hardly ever does what they’re told…
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Sidebar: learn to sing. Singing well and “finding your voice” are in my mind equivalent. Every time I become a more confident person I get better at singing. Every time my singing gets better through practice I feel more confident. “Speak w
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Yeah. Don’t dream it, be it :)
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
> What happened to shop class? Generation of parents who were ashamed of their kids having to swing a hammer for a living. See my comment below. When I started working in the trades every single person said it would be hard on my body. S
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I just spent the last week with the large number of digital nomads. The story that they sell me is that they’ve set up their life so that they can work from anywhere. Mostly this is possible because their jobs involve the manipulation of bi
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
It’s not my job to care about yourself. It’s your job you care about yourself
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
That’s all excuses. I’m not saying it’s right to bully someone who’s in the depths of depression. But the depression isn’t gonna fix itself and it certainly won’t fix itself because of something that happened in the past
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I never said you had to be good at talking. But you can be bad at talking and also not anxious, which it sounds like you are.
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Despite popular opinion having a sycophantic therapist trained Above all else to be liked by you is actually not good
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I regularly bully my close friends into being better people. It just so happens that I fell down the staircase of life much earlier than a lot of people do. I had to do most of my “midlife crisis” thinking in my early 20s because most of my
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Therapy is (or at least can be!) about trying to achieve goals that you have. I’m the GP commenter above. I went to therapy twice a week for two years to get over social anxiety and my entire life has completely opened up in a new way that
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Well that would be silly. I would hope the diabetic would go to a nutritionist for their physical and medical problem. But a social problem is something that should probably be fixed with a social solution There’s a lot of energy in this th
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
As a self identified autistic person, I regularly think of spooky situations as “socialization”. I went to a wedding where I only knew five people. Goddamn did I have some bad conversation. But I also made one new friend, and that’s cool! W
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I get that. I spent my entire childhood and the majority of my 20s as a closeted gay man. Every interaction was high stakes because if one person figured out you’re gay, then the cat is out of the bag. I had to do a hell of a lot of accepti
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
You can blame million years of evolution for your bad life or you can change it right now living in the present moment. It’s fine if you don’t do it right now because later at a future present moment you can still make the choice to be happ
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Going to therapy can help you create a more positive and staple self image.The more you like yourself the more you would want to share that with other people and the easier it becomes. To put a finer point on it, it kind of seems like the p
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
You seem to have a lot of limiting thoughts about yourself. Other people do those kinds of things but just don’t mind and don’t think that they are a bother to others. You’re allowed to be weird. Weird people make the best conversation beca
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
As someone who used to feel like they were bad at small talk, maybe this resonates with you. I wasn’t bad at small talk. I was bad at sharing my thoughts and feelings because it didn’t feel safe. As a result the only things that felt like s
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I don’t mean like being “authentic” or whatever that means. In this conversation “being yourself” means literally you existing in that moment in your body. I can’t tell you specifically what being “yourself“ means. But I can absolutely tell
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
I.e. the things that make people become friends and feel safe around each other. As a fellow autistic person we should not be avoiding small talk, we should be learning how to better connect with those around us since we need more time and
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
If any one single interaction makes you have such a response, that might be a reason to see someone. I wish for everyone to be able to move through the social world with grace and ease. Put less kindly: there’s nothing so special about you
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
Sidebar I like “moral crumple zone” much more than “moral hazard” just because it conjures up a much clearer picture of the problem it depicts.
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by justonceokay 6mo ago
If that’s how you feel then you might have an unreasonable standard. People you might consider to be living in abject poverty might not be so downtrodden as you suspect. Even though there are extreme downsides and externalities to being rel

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