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Don't do it. Start now, because what you'll find out if you're successful and rich is that what's standing in the way of a happy life have nothing to do with su

Don't do it. Start now, because what you'll find out if you're successful and rich is that what's standing in the way of a happy life have nothing to do with success or money. People use the chase for success in various forms as a way of avoiding self-knowledge. In some ways the worst thing that will ever happen to you is if you make the big bucks. Then you won't have an excuse for not knowing yourself. So what do the super-motivated people do then? They pick another milestone to shoot for before they'll start living. Start now. Don't wait for anything to happen. You are alive in every way that's meaningful, now.

hoodoof 11y ago
Was there anything Dave that you were holding off till you became successful - by whatever your definition of that is.
- davewiner 11y ago
  Yes, everything. I put so much value in achieving all the goals my family set for me. I figured everyone would love me when I was a success. So I checked off everything on the list, and I mean everything. Nothing changed. Of course. I know that now, but I wish someone had told me before. Live for yourself, do what you want to do. When other people tell you what to do, not only don't they know, but it won't please them when you do.
davismwfl 11y ago
This is so valid. Don't wait for some arbitrary monetary goal before you live life exactly how you want to. Money makes some things easier, but also makes a lot of things harder. It will not buy you happiness, it will not buy you meaning and it won't stop your wife from dumping your ass if you don't do your job at home (she'll just take half of your "money" with her on the way out). I always think of this story when I hear this type of question: http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/09/08/the-fisherman-and-the-businessman/ http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/09/08/the-fisherman-and-the-...

hoodoof 11y ago

Was there anything Dave that you were holding off till you became successful - by whatever your definition of that is.

davewiner 11y ago
Yes, everything. I put so much value in achieving all the goals my family set for me. I figured everyone would love me when I was a success. So I checked off everything on the list, and I mean everything. Nothing changed. Of course. I know that now, but I wish someone had told me before. Live for yourself, do what you want to do. When other people tell you what to do, not only don't they know, but it won't please them when you do.

davismwfl 11y ago

This is so valid. Don't wait for some arbitrary monetary goal before you live life exactly how you want to. Money makes some things easier, but also makes a lot of things harder. It will not buy you happiness, it will not buy you meaning and it won't stop your wife from dumping your ass if you don't do your job at home (she'll just take half of your "money" with her on the way out). I always think of this story when I hear this type of question: http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/09/08/the-fisherman-and-the-businessman/ http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/09/08/the-fisherman-and-the-...