You put this into better words than I ever could. What it comes down to is that someone being a "jerk" can be willfully ignored or looked past to see what thei

You put this into better words than I ever could. What it comes down to is that someone being a "jerk" can be willfully ignored or looked past to see what their point is. (And IMO, stubbornly refusing to do this is a lot more of an indication of childishness than how few four letter words you use.. i.e. it's a tone argument, i.e. near bottom of PG's hierarchy) If the "point" part is unclear, there's no looking past it, and the problem never gets solved since asking someone to stop beating around the bush is seen as jerk behavior.