I just wanted to throw in an anecdote I have: Friend's consulting company is run in a not so professional manner in some ways: lot's of ball busting and drinki

I just wanted to throw in an anecdote I have: Friend's consulting company is run in a not so professional manner in some ways: lot's of ball busting and drinking, too many jokes and comments about gay things or gay jokes etc. Totally not a cool environment for many people, and I don't support it, but they had one of their employees come out and they felt awful. They were just general assholes, not the kind that specifically had anything against someone's sexuality. They bent over backwards to make them feel included and cut down on most of the gay comments around the office. I'm not suggesting you stay and I think tptacek's advice is spot on, I just wanted to share in case you do decide coming out is the best thing for your mental health while you look for a job.