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If anything, AM reflects something that might change in society, namely if life-long monogamy makes sense. The time for that discussion is long before one deci

If anything, AM reflects something that might change in society, namely if life-long monogamy makes sense. The time for that discussion is long before one decides of their own free will to take part in life-long monogamy. Once you've made that promise, and then renege on it (a harmful act in of itself), there is a second person in that equation who is being harmed. Are innocent people likely to be harmed by this? Of course. But AM's entire reason for existing is perpetuation of marital infidelity. Given that AM's advertising emphasizes the "go have an affair!" business, we can reasonably assume that most of this company's clientele are people who are in committed relationships. I find it very hard to be bothered by the fact that the majority of that site's customer base will be called to account for grave lies to their spouse. (I was going to make an admonishment to stop downvoting the guy above me, but then they added the completely unwarranted "neckbeardism" remark.. knock yourselves out, I guess) (And then they added the further completely unwarranted remark about "judeo-christian" values... jeez dude...)

eloff 11y ago
Spot on. You can have whatever views you want on life long monogamy, but once you enter into a life long monogamous relationship with someone whose views may not match yours, you are morally committed to hold up your end of that deal or renegotiate it. Having affairs behind the back of your SO is just terribly selfish. Let's not pretend it's anything else.
DannyBee 11y ago
" But AM's entire reason for existing is perpetuation of marital infidelity" Not that you are completely wrong, but just to note, AM also exists for people who are married but separated or getting divorced :) Most, if not all states in the US have waiting periods of 6 months to 2 years once you file for divorce before you can be legally divorced (even if you are already divorced according to your religion or whatever). Adultery is not really a crime anymore (most criminal adultery statues are now unconstitutional), but this would be considered adultery (whether you did it on AM or elsewhere) Certainly not their main use case, but there is a "morally blameless" portion of their user base. (My ex was a family lawyer, and AM seemed to get used as a discreet place for those getting divorced to do things without it getting noticed by the other side)

eloff 11y ago

Spot on. You can have whatever views you want on life long monogamy, but once you enter into a life long monogamous relationship with someone whose views may not match yours, you are morally committed to hold up your end of that deal or renegotiate it. Having affairs behind the back of your SO is just terribly selfish. Let's not pretend it's anything else.

DannyBee 11y ago

" But AM's entire reason for existing is perpetuation of marital infidelity" Not that you are completely wrong, but just to note, AM also exists for people who are married but separated or getting divorced :) Most, if not all states in the US have waiting periods of 6 months to 2 years once you file for divorce before you can be legally divorced (even if you are already divorced according to your religion or whatever). Adultery is not really a crime anymore (most criminal adultery statues are now unconstitutional), but this would be considered adultery (whether you did it on AM or elsewhere) Certainly not their main use case, but there is a "morally blameless" portion of their user base. (My ex was a family lawyer, and AM seemed to get used as a discreet place for those getting divorced to do things without it getting noticed by the other side)