I think you're making the mistake of treating blame in this instance as though it has to add up to 100%, and blame on one party lessens it on another. If my fr

I think you're making the mistake of treating blame in this instance as though it has to add up to 100%, and blame on one party lessens it on another. If my friend's dad hates gays, I tell him his son is gay knowing it's likely to cause violence, then the father and I are both total pieces of shit. His guilt does not absolve me in the least.