The problem is that people who say "Oh my rape was no big deal, I'm fine, you should get over it" are a) likely deflecting their own trauma and b) not being at

The problem is that people who say "Oh my rape was no big deal, I'm fine, you should get over it" are a) likely deflecting their own trauma and b) not being at all helpful to the "whiners" who have experienced trauma from rape. I found your comment to be marginalizing, at best. There is no excusing rape or calling it anything other than it is: a violation. Anyone who marginalizes rape, even your anecdotal victims, are 100% wrong. Even if one person is able to walk away from a rape without significant, crippling trauma, there are still dozens of others who will never, ever be the same.