> Most importantly: how do I best stand up for my own interests here, without being the asshole that ruins the deal for everyone? First figure out what you nee

> Most importantly: how do I best stand up for my own interests here, without being the asshole that ruins the deal for everyone? First figure out what you need to make it work, and then be up front about that with everyone. Be stable, straightforward, and stick to your position. Have a clear idea of your plan B (which could be 3 months of travel, for example). Be polite but absolutely, positively willing to walk away. As long as you stay stable and polite you won't be an asshole. This is your life, you don't have any obligation to be a "nice guy" and take a shitty deal just so that other people can make money or save face.