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> I usually like girls that fit the mental image of the kind of girl I want to be with (or at least think I want to be with). That's very much a two way street

by RickS 11y ago

> I usually like girls that fit the mental image of the kind of girl I want to be with (or at least think I want to be with). That's very much a two way street. Are you cultivating yourself to be the person that women (at least the approximate type you like) picture themselves being with? Someone gave me this advice once in a catchy way that's stuck with me for many years: "Live the life the girl you want will want to be a part of" I think a lot of people draw blanks here, and go "shit - I don't know what the women I want... want" Searching for that answer is a fine place to start. re: virginity - the way you carry yourself mentally will impact your performance 100x more than # hours clocked in the sheets. Society hypes this up way more than is realistic. I don't know anyone who looks back on their first time swooning about how romantic and perfect it was. There's a "that was it?" moment that most people have at some point.

nirvanaa 11y ago
Great point. This year, I've realized that I really don't want that 'instagram model gf' that I initially wanted after dealing with one who had Borderline Personality Disorder. Then, I met the wonderful girl from Boston while waiting for a permaculture workshop to start at a music festival. We're just friends though, and she is with a DJ right now from California. It probably wouldn't have worked anyways because she is almost 28. So, I'm at least on the right track now in terms of knowing where to go. I'm moving to Boulder at the end of this year. I think being around nature, culture, and tech-oriented people will definitely help my chances. I know I'll be one happy hobbit there surrounded by mountains, valleys, and trees. I kinda sensed that but wasn't sure. No one actually knows I am a virgin because I lie and none of my friends doubt it because I have more female interaction than they do. I guess I should just wait for the right girl and forget about the whole escort idea, probably not the best way to lose it. Thanks for the perspective.

by RickS 11y ago

nirvanaa 11y ago

Great point. This year, I've realized that I really don't want that 'instagram model gf' that I initially wanted after dealing with one who had Borderline Personality Disorder. Then, I met the wonderful girl from Boston while waiting for a permaculture workshop to start at a music festival. We're just friends though, and she is with a DJ right now from California. It probably wouldn't have worked anyways because she is almost 28. So, I'm at least on the right track now in terms of knowing where to go. I'm moving to Boulder at the end of this year. I think being around nature, culture, and tech-oriented people will definitely help my chances. I know I'll be one happy hobbit there surrounded by mountains, valleys, and trees. I kinda sensed that but wasn't sure. No one actually knows I am a virgin because I lie and none of my friends doubt it because I have more female interaction than they do. I guess I should just wait for the right girl and forget about the whole escort idea, probably not the best way to lose it. Thanks for the perspective.