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No matter how many friends you may have lost, there's lots of people in this world. Yes, but friends and family are not fungible. You can't just replace them w

• pyre 17y ago
  The point being that you shouldn't cut yourself off from the world and feel like your are alone just because you've screwed up some relationships. If you've screwed up some relationships beyond repair, then seek out new ones rather than isolating yourself and lamenting over what you've lost. That path only ends in depression or madness.
  • _pius 17y ago
    I don't disagree with one thing you've said here.
• billswift 17y ago
  If you can't make new friends, then you've got bigger problems than overwork.
  • abstractbill 17y ago
    You can never make new friends who have known you since <insert important point-in-time here>. Sometimes having old friends around can be quite important.
  • _pius 17y ago
    If you can't make new friends, then you've got bigger problems than overwork. You're missing the point. New friends don't "replace" old friends the way a new dollar bill can replace one you lost gambling. As I said, friends and family are not fungible.
    • pyre 17y ago
      You're missing the point. While family members and 'old friends' are irreplaceable, if you've screwed up all of your relationships beyond repair, you've got to rebuild from somewhere no? You can't say, "good/old friends are irreplaceable so why bother to make new friends once I've lost them."
      • _pius 17y ago
        You can't say, "good/old friends are irreplaceable so why bother to make new friends once I've lost them." I'm not saying that; that's as extreme as what I'm arguing against. Obviously you've gotta move forward ... you can't just give up on life if there's a setback. And I generally agree with you that more often than not relationships can be repaired. But people shouldn't believe that they can just get all of these relationships and lost time back: at best, they can do better moving forward. You can't get your twenties back if you burn them in an office somewhere and you can't get time with your parents back if they, for instance, pass away while you're all wrapped up in your startup. Pay attention to your life, you only live once, as far as we know. If you wake up one morning to realize you've made mistakes, don't wallow in regret, change your course for the better.
        • pyre 17y ago
          That was my original point. That he/she should make new friends/reconnect with old friends. He/she seems to be in the mindset that, "things have been screwed up, so just throw yourself even more into your startup because you've already invested the loss of your social life as a 'sunk cost.'" I'm trying to say not to do that.
          • _pius 17y ago
            I misunderstood then, we're in agreement. :)