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Ask HN: How do you feel when the Internet insults you?
So easy for the Internet to be negative to your comments/blog posts/tweets/whatever.
How do you feel when you are the target of negativity or attack or insult?
Do you take it on board, does it hurt your feelings at all?
- paperrr1 11y agodude just walk away from the keyboard. dont take life so seriously. everyone will have a reason to pick on anyone else. especially on the interwebs.
- b6 11y agoOne of my basic life strategies seems to be: either don't do something, or do it and don't be sorry. I use this all the time, for all kinds of things. For example, I'm not insightful when it comes to dressing myself. Recently I wasn't sure whether it would be OK to wear black socks with shorts. I thought about it, and decided it was OK, so I do it. Someone might try to give me a hard time about it, but it wouldn't sting unless they thought of something I hadn't. Or when I write something online, I try to think about how I would talk if the readers were in the same room. I try to be compassionate and fair. I try to think whether what I'm saying is just. Often, the draft doesn't survive the process because I realize I'm just angry or want to be snarky. But if I re-re-read it and I'm OK with it, then I say it, and whatever happens will happen. Maybe someone will catch me in an error. Then I'll feel bad and apologize sincerely and try to do better, but try not to beat myself up too much. Everyone makes mistakes. No big deal. If you form the habit of asking yourself whether what you're doing is OK, I think it vaccinates you somewhat against both shallow criticism and self-doubt.
- ausdevthrowaway 11y agoI made a pull request for a plugin I used frequently. They didn't like my changes so I deleted my pull request. For that I was accused of not being open source, so I deleted my GitHub account. Then they mocked me further. I almost killed myself! I still haven't created another GitHub account.
- wlkr 11y agoNot being aware of the situation I cannot comment on the bulk of your post, other than to say that I hope you are OK now? I'm always cautious about pinning anything I do online to an identity - HN is actually about the only site I use where I post under my own name. Largely this stems from not wanting to make mistakes and avoiding any possible future public repurcussions. I truly wish anonymity was more embraced on sites like GitHub. For instance, I think the ability to hide your identity from others when submitting a pull request would strongly encourage people to contribute, which could only be a good thing.