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Gonna have to disagree with you on that last paragraph. You make very broad assumptions that I'd dispute as an accurate generalization. As a dad to 2 kids (bec
by donohoe 11y ago
Gonna have to disagree with you on that last paragraph. You make very broad assumptions that I'd dispute as an accurate generalization.
As a dad to 2 kids (became a father at 28) I would strongly urge people to wait until they were 30-38 before having kids.
Given the great innovations in this space I'd even say 40 is a great age to have kids - though it gets harder with age beyond this imho.
- ta92929 11y agoWhy do you feel that way? Biologically that's not really the way humans were designed. It's unfortunate that the modern first world economy and society is so incompatible with biology.
- facepalm 11y agoI had my first kid with 38 and I wish it would have been sooner. I love having a kid now. But I worry about staying healthy enough to do the fun things I want to do with them. And grandparents are a major factor, too. They are a great help, and also they really enjoy being with their children. Supposing my kids also wait until they are 38 to have kids, my odds at enjoying quality time with grandchildren are greatly reduced. I'll probably be almost of pension age when my kids finish their education. That's another thing where I worry I might not be able to help them out as much as I could if I would still be earning money and connected in the business world. It would perhaps be different if I had toiled and saved money all the time up to age 38, but I didn't. If you have kids, odds are you get more serious about those things.
- __z 11y agoThere's advantages and disadvantages of both early and late childbearing. I don't believe there is an "optimal" choice. 28 is hardly an "old" age to become a father. I do take issue with the statement that young people (people in their 20s) have energy "in abundance."
- JoeAltmaier 11y agoSpoken like a young person.
- __z 11y agoI'm certainly no spring chicken.
- hessenwolf 11y agoExpecting at 36, I disagree with you. It's given us less time. There is no way to wait until you have managed away all the risks.
- Kluny 11y agoMy mother waited until she was nearly 40 to have me, and as a result I was born with birth defects (I'm deaf). There is no way to deal with all of the risks.