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I see a lot of comments here ranging from support to trolling... since this is HN there is more support and (at last check) only one troll. And that's really m
by icu 11y ago
I see a lot of comments here ranging from support to trolling... since this is HN there is more support and (at last check) only one troll.
And that's really my point. No matter what, if you put yourself and your two cents into the public domain this stuff is part of the territory.
Granted in a perfect world we wouldn't have such trolling or at the very least there would be some authority doing online moderation and sanctioning. However life isn't and will never be fair, let alone the fact that such policing of the net is just not sensible.
So what to do really? Well I subscribe to the belief that an insult is an agreement between two people, if I don't agree, it's nullified, it doesn't even exist and I'm really not bothered.
Clearly this stuff is getting to her and after reading her blog post it really seems like it's affecting her emotionally. At the risk of being blunt, I think this will just encourage the trolls.
IMHO she either goes forward with a belief structure that deals with the trolling or she (sadly) takes a break from being in the public eye.
- jessaustin 11y agoYou have a good attitude about insults aimed at you. However, many people have lived lives that make such a healthy attitude impossible for them. I don't think progress is served by saying, "well it sucks that little girls are taught to stay 'safe' by taking the opinions of fuckwits seriously but I didn't teach them that so tough shit!" I doubt there's a magic bullet, but it would be better if we could build communication mechanisms that didn't expose women to the vilest excretions of the world's collective mental sewer.
- icu 11y agoHi, well firstly it saddens me somewhat that you think I was suggesting that, as you put it, "well it sucks that little girls are taught to stay 'safe' by taking the opinions of fuckwits seriously but I didn't teach them that so tough shit!" Honestly for me it's not about sex. I believe men and women are in fact equal and anything less than that is ignorance. As for a 'silver bullet', there won't ever be one. Best I can do is teach my son gender equality.
- jessaustin 11y agoI'm glad that you're sad. You certainly did suggest that this person who has reacted differently to trolls than you imagine you would in her situation should "take a break from being in the public eye". If you think about it a little you'll see why my paraphrase of your sentiment is pretty fucking exact. Then you can change your mind and not be sad anymore.
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