Here's the thing, while the dating market is different in different places, the tenets are essentially the same. You need volume, opportunity and the cost slash

Here's the thing, while the dating market is different in different places, the tenets are essentially the same. You need volume, opportunity and the cost slash willingness to go out and meet people. You can always do the OKCupid thing or something, but it's a lot like playing the lottery with slightly better odds depending on what you want out of it. If you're looking for something sustainable, your best bet is to get out and interact in likeminded groups that have single women (so not tech meetups) and where you can have the potential to interact with out it being weird over shared interest(s) and can maybe follow it up. I'd say not to focus so much immediately on the dating when you arrive and rather, focus on getting yourself established and again, getting a core group of people to hang with. Or at least try to meld the two activities so you're not just wasting a lot of time. In NYC, going on dates was a way for me to explore parts of my neighborhood and surrounding areas (Brooklyn) and so I mind if dates didn't have followups because I meeting nice enough people and if nothing else, I was seeing places I might not have bothered to explore on my own. Dating won't fix your depression though. Neither will dating fix your social anxiety. Seconded on the others who say you need to stick to just an area rather than spreading the field. You wouldn't have dated in Jersey when you live in the city, you shouldn't be driving to Anaheim to meet people when there are folks closer in proximity to where you are who might want to me. Joining a group will help your social anxiety though, because the deal is, striking out on dating might make you more reclusive and a bad dating situation is worse than being alone if you're not careful. Best of luck.