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The best thing you can do for yourself is to go to therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy can make a big difference in your life. Find someone in your area and c
by hugozap 11y ago
The best thing you can do for yourself is to go to therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy can make a big difference in your life. Find someone in your area and commit yourself to improve with the guidance of someone who can help you.
A lot of the issues you have could be the result of a distorted life perspective. Superficial advice like "lift weights" are not helpful. You need to change your thinking patterns to have results that last.
- anon3_ 11y agoLifting weights is superficial advice? It makes every part of your life easier. - Releases endorphines to make you happy - Makes you more attractive - Helps you burn more fat - Helps your long term health - Gives you something to put into your routine to have a healthy habit - When you do it and stick to it, the downside is you have to listen to occasional ignorant comments by people who downplay the benefits of this. - Your sex drive increases - Testosterone / you become more dominant It's not easy either - lifting weights takes a lot more effort than jogging. You're more likely to be characterized as a brute jock, as opposed to biking / jogging where it's all glib hipsters.
- hugozap 11y agoYes, is superficial advice. Why? Because it won't solve the core issues. I'm not saying it's bad to do it, or that it won't have benefits, however it won't magically solve deep seated problems like bad thinking patterns or a distorted life point of view. As a complementary activity, that's great but should not be taken as "the solution", because it's not and could be misleading for people that need guided therapy. It's similar to people with eating disorders. Telling them "just eat healthy and work out" won't help them ( they have heard that for years). They "know" that they could eat better and they know all the benefits of working out but there are deeper issues / fears/ misconceptions that should be treated first. Don't take it personal, just be aware that is not that simple.
- nailer 11y agoGuided therapy isn't a sole solution either. Both physical and cognitive health are important.
- johnny22 11y agoI'm confused as to how this is a plus on it's own "- Testosterone / you become more dominant"
- jwatte 11y agoIn most of our actual society, this is actually a benefit.
- Frozenlock 11y agoIt's not, and it's wrong. Probably some 'facts' told by training gurus or whatnot. You can be 5 feet tall, built on a cat frame and still be dominant. Being dominant is much more about how you interact socially. And no, being the 'tough' guy doesn't help. You can feel more confidant if you have some more muscle mass, but that's about it. Now, about the testosterone. Exercise will make your testosterone go up for only a few minutes to an hour, which doesn't do much of a difference. (Same for sex btw; levels go up AFTER sex.) Besides, if you lack the hormone in any serious matters, you should seek a physician. Other than that, why would you want more? Because you think it's in direct proportion to your manliness?
- nate_meurer 11y agoAgreed overall, with the nitpick that I've never seen evidence that testosterone increases after sex.
- GFK_of_xmaspast 11y agoEspecially since dude's already got a felony sex conviction.
- shmageggy 11y agoOne crucial aspect of this is finding the right therapist. Really good therapists are actually somewhat rare, and a bad one can waste a lot of your time or worse. Finding the right therapist is like dating. You have to shop around a bit to find the right match but once you do it can be incredibly rewarding.