With the Political Correctness police gaining momentum again after being laughed out of the 80ies People say this kind of thing, and I know there are terms peo

With the Political Correctness police gaining momentum again after being laughed out of the 80ies People say this kind of thing, and I know there are terms people have suggested that I find kind of silly. However, we know better than to call people negros, and most of us know not to call a grown woman at work a "girl", (or a black man "boy"). The principle is pretty clear, we're just haggling over the details. Essentially no one disagrees that there are some words that are overtly insulting, and others that are more or less subtly patronizing. We (myself) included, just have a knee-jerk reaction that "of course this one's ok". And we're probably right some of the time, but we're wrong other times.