SSM isn't something that a lot of people in the tech industry discuss in public. A lot of people in a SSM want to stay in the closet for example. In 1999 I wor

SSM isn't something that a lot of people in the tech industry discuss in public. A lot of people in a SSM want to stay in the closet for example. In 1999 I worked for a law firm that developed a series of web apps. One of them displays employee information from the HR database (We were developing an HR management system) I was added to add some fields to the employee info page. One of them was Spouse_Name. Now this was in St. Louis Missouri that has a city law that protects against sexual orientation and the law firm was connected with the Democrats. I told my manager I objected to adding in spouse name as it out would people who had a same sex partner in the database. He told me it was nonsense and that nobody would discriminate against a gay couple. I told him some might want to keep it a secret just in case. He told me to add it or get fired. So I added it. There were a lot of complaints that the web app was broken and showing a spouse of the same sex. A lot of them supervisors or managers. I was blamed for outing them with my web app. I feel bad about it to this day. Stuff like that stressed me out and lead to my mental breakdown and development of a mental illness. I didn't mean to harm anyone or out anyone with my web app. But I just wanted to say that some SSM people want to keep it a secret, and not talk about it. Even if it is an issue that needs to be addressed. There are many people who left Christianity over issues like that, they became non-practicing or atheists as a result.