You're absolutely right, and I'm not sure that the parent would disagree with you. However, the grandparent specifically formulated the choice as a dilemma: (I

You're absolutely right, and I'm not sure that the parent would disagree with you. However, the grandparent specifically formulated the choice as a dilemma: (I'd work my ass off without options, but the options really make it easy to say "I will do everything in my power to make this succeed" instead of "I'd rather go spend time with my friends tonight"), and that is probably what the parent was referring to.