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That's really a false dichotomy. Ideally you aren't a nice person outside of work and a jerk at work. You are just a nice person. And if you see someone struggl

That's really a false dichotomy. Ideally you aren't a nice person outside of work and a jerk at work. You are just a nice person. And if you see someone struggling, you don't fire them: you help them. Just like most of the best practices here haven't been tied to success, it's also true that helping people going through a hard time hasn't been tied to failure. The right thing to do is really obvious here. Help them.

technofiend 11y ago
Well you say that but I work at a very high pressure job that requires me to be far harsher towards employees than friends. I test as ENTP at work and INTJ at home just because success at work requires a different mindset. I don't like it, but that's how it is.
- brobdingnagian 11y ago
  "I don't like it, but that's how it is." No arguing with that. In the long run, we can hopefully select against business practices that have these kinds of human costs.
- wtvanhest 11y ago
  The last company I worked for was extremely high pressure, but I never encountered anyone who was harsh. They would be fired. It just isn't necessary. Also, ENTP & INTJ all that stuff is proven to be bunk with no statistical evidence that it predicts anything.
  - technofiend 11y ago
    Well at work I'm forced to give much more honest and direct feedback than I may do outside of work. I'm also required to represent my company's interest instead of lending a sympathetic ear to a friend. Don't get me wrong: I'm honest and fair, but some avenues are simply closed in an employee / employer relationship. I just told a guy today that he flunked an interview because he failed to convince the ED he interviewed with that he (the interviewee) would adequately represent his area on a P1 production support bridge. I could have sugar-coated it and said "Ah, man, yeah that was unfair because I've seen you succeed in exactly that situation" but instead I coached him on how to present himself better and (hopefully) pass the interview next time. It wasn't pleasant telling him what I had to tell him, but it was necessary.

technofiend 11y ago

Well you say that but I work at a very high pressure job that requires me to be far harsher towards employees than friends. I test as ENTP at work and INTJ at home just because success at work requires a different mindset. I don't like it, but that's how it is.

brobdingnagian 11y ago
"I don't like it, but that's how it is." No arguing with that. In the long run, we can hopefully select against business practices that have these kinds of human costs.
wtvanhest 11y ago
The last company I worked for was extremely high pressure, but I never encountered anyone who was harsh. They would be fired. It just isn't necessary. Also, ENTP & INTJ all that stuff is proven to be bunk with no statistical evidence that it predicts anything.
- technofiend 11y ago
  Well at work I'm forced to give much more honest and direct feedback than I may do outside of work. I'm also required to represent my company's interest instead of lending a sympathetic ear to a friend. Don't get me wrong: I'm honest and fair, but some avenues are simply closed in an employee / employer relationship. I just told a guy today that he flunked an interview because he failed to convince the ED he interviewed with that he (the interviewee) would adequately represent his area on a P1 production support bridge. I could have sugar-coated it and said "Ah, man, yeah that was unfair because I've seen you succeed in exactly that situation" but instead I coached him on how to present himself better and (hopefully) pass the interview next time. It wasn't pleasant telling him what I had to tell him, but it was necessary.