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> it's generally more enjoyable to be around a funny person than a boring one Being consistently funny requires some amount of intelligence, creativity, and se

> it's generally more enjoyable to be around a funny person than a boring one Being consistently funny requires some amount of intelligence, creativity, and self-confidence. All of those things are good qualities in a husband and father. It's possible that humor adds more above and beyond those qualities, but I'm skeptical that a study could separate the effects of those other qualities.

drzaiusapelord 11y ago
>Being consistently funny requires some amount of intelligence, creativity, and self-confidence. Considering most "funny people" engage in low effort puns or just ape what they hear on TV or the internet, I'm not so sure of that. I guess the potential mother's taste in humor is important here.
- spiritplumber 11y ago
  That still requires the confidence to give it a go, though.
  - kelukelugames 11y ago
    Or obliviousness. http://www.theonion.com/article/courageous-man-overcomes-womans-body-language-to-c-38152 http://www.theonion.com/article/courageous-man-overcomes-wom...
  - drzaiusapelord 11y ago
    There's a difference between socially blind fueled arrogance and legitimate confidence. Considering many women complain about arrogant men and geek/bro culture, well, I don't think quoting Monty Python endlessly projects an air of confidence. In fact, it probably does the opposite.
- sergiotapia 11y ago
  Despite what tumblr would have you believe, most people are not like this.
  - drzaiusapelord 11y ago
    No but everyone's "funny friend" is. I find humor to actually be a rare talent. Maybe very rare. How many Jon Stewarts are out there per million people? I wonder if the copying a lot of young men do (endlessly quoting movies and such) is some kind of evolutionary trick to come off as funny or smart, like a bird fluffing its feathers to come off as a larger and stronger potential mate. Yeah, that's pretty reductionist, but it really makes you wonder why this behavior is so common. Past "mating age" its insufferable if someone does it.
    - ZeroGravitas 11y ago
      I've read a few (auto-)biographies of famous comedians, and the rote memorisation and repitition of their comedy heroes' routines comes up a lot. Not to say everyone quoting famous lines is a genius but it doesn't rule it out.
    - maratd 11y ago
      > No but everyone's "funny friend" is. Women aren't looking for comedians. They're looking for men who can still smile when everything around them is turning to shit. So if you can crack a joke when the waiter brings you raw chicken, rather than screaming your head off and threatening to sue, that's the kind of funny a woman wants.
      - drzaiusapelord 11y ago
        I think temperament and humor are two different things. When someone says, "I like people who make me laugh" they aren't really talking about not losing their shit when the waiter brings the wrong thing. They literally mean laughing. Considering so many entertainers are horrible primadonnas and massivly self-entitled, I doubt being good at humor has anyting to do with temperament, compassion, empathy, etc.
        maratd 11y ago
        Most entertainers read a script, they're not spontaneously funny. > When someone says, "I like people who make me laugh" When people say that, they're not talking about a professional comedian or even a class clown. They like people who are happy and relaxed. When someone is happy and relaxed, they're having a good time and they play around, make jokes, and generally allow other people around them to also have a good time. It's not about having a good temperament, although that's probably a prerequisite. It's about being genuinely happy. I dare you to come up with a better test of figuring out if a person is happy or not.
- __z 11y ago
  >low effort puns But I LOVE low effort puns! They make me laugh every time!

drzaiusapelord 11y ago

>Being consistently funny requires some amount of intelligence, creativity, and self-confidence. Considering most "funny people" engage in low effort puns or just ape what they hear on TV or the internet, I'm not so sure of that. I guess the potential mother's taste in humor is important here.

spiritplumber 11y ago
That still requires the confidence to give it a go, though.
- kelukelugames 11y ago
  Or obliviousness. http://www.theonion.com/article/courageous-man-overcomes-womans-body-language-to-c-38152 http://www.theonion.com/article/courageous-man-overcomes-wom...
- drzaiusapelord 11y ago
  There's a difference between socially blind fueled arrogance and legitimate confidence. Considering many women complain about arrogant men and geek/bro culture, well, I don't think quoting Monty Python endlessly projects an air of confidence. In fact, it probably does the opposite.
sergiotapia 11y ago
Despite what tumblr would have you believe, most people are not like this.
- drzaiusapelord 11y ago
  No but everyone's "funny friend" is. I find humor to actually be a rare talent. Maybe very rare. How many Jon Stewarts are out there per million people? I wonder if the copying a lot of young men do (endlessly quoting movies and such) is some kind of evolutionary trick to come off as funny or smart, like a bird fluffing its feathers to come off as a larger and stronger potential mate. Yeah, that's pretty reductionist, but it really makes you wonder why this behavior is so common. Past "mating age" its insufferable if someone does it.
  - ZeroGravitas 11y ago
    I've read a few (auto-)biographies of famous comedians, and the rote memorisation and repitition of their comedy heroes' routines comes up a lot. Not to say everyone quoting famous lines is a genius but it doesn't rule it out.
  - maratd 11y ago
    > No but everyone's "funny friend" is. Women aren't looking for comedians. They're looking for men who can still smile when everything around them is turning to shit. So if you can crack a joke when the waiter brings you raw chicken, rather than screaming your head off and threatening to sue, that's the kind of funny a woman wants.
    - drzaiusapelord 11y ago
      I think temperament and humor are two different things. When someone says, "I like people who make me laugh" they aren't really talking about not losing their shit when the waiter brings the wrong thing. They literally mean laughing. Considering so many entertainers are horrible primadonnas and massivly self-entitled, I doubt being good at humor has anyting to do with temperament, compassion, empathy, etc.
      - maratd 11y ago
        Most entertainers read a script, they're not spontaneously funny. > When someone says, "I like people who make me laugh" When people say that, they're not talking about a professional comedian or even a class clown. They like people who are happy and relaxed. When someone is happy and relaxed, they're having a good time and they play around, make jokes, and generally allow other people around them to also have a good time. It's not about having a good temperament, although that's probably a prerequisite. It's about being genuinely happy. I dare you to come up with a better test of figuring out if a person is happy or not.
__z 11y ago
>low effort puns But I LOVE low effort puns! They make me laugh every time!