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I have experiences and opinions on this but to keep it short: It should really be split into several phases: 1) Take away profiles, pictures, zodiac signs, ad

by nadams 11y ago

I have experiences and opinions on this but to keep it short: It should really be split into several phases: 1) Take away profiles, pictures, zodiac signs, advanced algorithms and just put some basic constraints and have a blind chatroulette type system. Algorithms could be used for matching people like determining if they both like the same movies or something. It might be good to give them a mutual topic to talk about (same school, movies, games etc) - otherwise every chat will start with "what is your favorite movie?" 2) Then let them decide if they want to share more information like sharing their profile, pictures, zodiac signs. 3) If they still want to continue - have each independently check boxes of if they want to see a movie and/or dinner and what movie/restaurant they would be interested in (also include possible locations) and figure out a mutual date based on those selections. Much better than a cold approach and you know instantly that you are talking with somebody on the other end (verification might be an interesting feature).

lnanek2 11y ago
That would be fine for men, but women would just be flooded. They already get thousands of messages on dating apps. They aren't going to go for something that doesn't let them weed people out without a conversation first. That just doesn't scale. Genetically men have evolved to get as many women pregnant as possible, women have evolved to be picky and decide which is best to spend 9 months having the baby of. You aren't going to get a successful dating site only appealing to men like your design where everyone is forced to have a conversation before they can be picky.
- nadams 11y ago
  > That would be fine for men, but women would just be flooded. Can you explain what you mean by that - chatroulette style is that you randomly are paired with one other person. And once the chat ends you have to click a button to be paired again. The way I would see is that individuals would login and click "pair me" and it would search pair with one and only one other person (I think I would even go so far as to restrict them to one conversation). I suppose someone might not be paired with someone for some time but that is the "risk" I suppose. Perhaps a timeout could help or a notification saying "people are online that match what you are looking for".
sigmar 11y ago
I heavily agree with this post. People believe that pictures and zodiac matter more than they actually do. Not sure if I agree with your #3 though, seems like it is automating too much
- nadams 11y ago
  I only say that because I find it difficult to find a place between me and the other person. Like for example last time I went out on a date I choose a theatre that was between us - but she wanted to go to one that was like an hour away from her (about the same distance for me). The location selection would help with I guess "reading their mind" of what the other person wants to do. My personality is really open to almost anything - but I don't know what their favorite restaurants are when we start actually planning a date. It could even be as simple as listing out popular restaurants in the area such as Chili's, TGI Fridays etc (arguably the food at those places aren't the best - but it's usually has plenty of people there, has light, and can have a conversation).

by nadams 11y ago

lnanek2 11y ago

That would be fine for men, but women would just be flooded. They already get thousands of messages on dating apps. They aren't going to go for something that doesn't let them weed people out without a conversation first. That just doesn't scale. Genetically men have evolved to get as many women pregnant as possible, women have evolved to be picky and decide which is best to spend 9 months having the baby of. You aren't going to get a successful dating site only appealing to men like your design where everyone is forced to have a conversation before they can be picky.

nadams 11y ago
> That would be fine for men, but women would just be flooded. Can you explain what you mean by that - chatroulette style is that you randomly are paired with one other person. And once the chat ends you have to click a button to be paired again. The way I would see is that individuals would login and click "pair me" and it would search pair with one and only one other person (I think I would even go so far as to restrict them to one conversation). I suppose someone might not be paired with someone for some time but that is the "risk" I suppose. Perhaps a timeout could help or a notification saying "people are online that match what you are looking for".

sigmar 11y ago

I heavily agree with this post. People believe that pictures and zodiac matter more than they actually do. Not sure if I agree with your #3 though, seems like it is automating too much

nadams 11y ago
I only say that because I find it difficult to find a place between me and the other person. Like for example last time I went out on a date I choose a theatre that was between us - but she wanted to go to one that was like an hour away from her (about the same distance for me). The location selection would help with I guess "reading their mind" of what the other person wants to do. My personality is really open to almost anything - but I don't know what their favorite restaurants are when we start actually planning a date. It could even be as simple as listing out popular restaurants in the area such as Chili's, TGI Fridays etc (arguably the food at those places aren't the best - but it's usually has plenty of people there, has light, and can have a conversation).