Formality versus familiarity ...it's a puzzle for us westerners. As a states speaker of english i have always suffered when to use the familiar 'you'. French:

Formality versus familiarity ...it's a puzzle for us westerners. As a states speaker of english i have always suffered when to use the familiar 'you'. French: Vous/Tu, German: Sie/Du, Russian: вы/ты ... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T%E2%80%93V_distinction https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T%E2%80%93V_distinction The most amusing guidance i ever received was from a French postdoc: "So, once you've slept with someone, -then- you can use 'the tu'"