From what you say there I think you understand me. Throughout this interaction I am assuming a few things: 1. Reclining causes discomfort to the person behind

From what you say there I think you understand me. Throughout this interaction I am assuming a few things: 1. Reclining causes discomfort to the person behind 2. But the amount of discomfort varies quite a bit from person to person (e.g. I can imagine that a small child is less discomforted than others) 3. I can't really tell for sure how much discomfort reclining will cause so I ask if it is OK to recline. Then it is up to the person behind to decide how comfortable they are with this. Are you suggesting that I shouldn't recline at all because it causes discomfort to those behind even if the amount of discomfort might be negligible?