Exactly, this is why it's called "The Grind". My wife works 40 hours per week at a local government facility, and I work the same schedule at a private company.

Exactly, this is why it's called "The Grind". My wife works 40 hours per week at a local government facility, and I work the same schedule at a private company. We have maybe three hours of time together each evening, and that time is taken by household chores, cooking (which I mostly do), eating dinner, then we usually each have something we wanted to do separately. By the time we're ready to spend time together, it's bedtime. It's been a drain on both of us mentally and emotionally, and if we weren't so amazingly compatible it would be an issue in our marriage. As it is, I'm planning on going back to government work myself on a rotating 12 hour shift so I have days off during the week, and can take care of those household chores that take away a lot of our free time together. It will also allow me to get back to my writing, which is difficult to do after a mentally exhausting nine-to-five day of fixing other people's issues.