The article could be extended and mashed up to obtain an interesting, perhaps useful, alternative conclusion. A quarter century ago there were very popular pop

The article could be extended and mashed up to obtain an interesting, perhaps useful, alternative conclusion. A quarter century ago there were very popular pop psychology books by a guy named john gray whom I believe is still alive on the difference between men talking about problems and women talking about problems with the claim of an unusually accurate stereotype is men, especially tech men, mostly talk about problems to fix them as best they can (however poorly that may be) and women mostly talk about problems to air their grievances and de-stress and if they wanted a best effort repair, being strong women they'd have already done it themselves so men should F off, shut up, listen, and not tell them what to do. The above is a gross and inaccurate summary based on failing memories of an entire series of pop psych books from a long time ago, but I don't think I totally messed up my summary. At least not on purpose. Anyway looking at the article thru 25 year old pop psych glasses in a crazy extended mash up, the author is bent out of shape because worldwide whenever problems are discussed the only response is the "manly response" of trying their best to fix the problem, however incompetently. So far the author and quarter century old pop psych are in sync. They diverge at my suggestion that perhaps attempting the "womanly response" of actually listening would be worth a try when confronted with a problem. Or maybe 25 year old pop psych is best left in the dustbin of history. But it is interesting to think about a bit. I've made a lot of money for longer than many HN readers/posters have been alive by fixing stuff. When I've gotten really stuck, sometimes its helped to actually listen rather than wielding keyboards and screwdrivers and soldering irons. Just saying anecdotally the obsolete pop psych stuff is occasionally not totally useless. Note I'm not trying to ignite a flamewar about women in tech. Especially since "shut up and listen" isn't necessarily only useful when talking to women, and I'm not even claiming that a quarter century old pop psych worldview is true or universal or even generally useful, although I am claiming its super creepy deja vu to hear a modern retelling of part of the story, admittedly with different conclusions. Its just that the author describing (male) techies trying to solve the worlds problems totally sounds like something John Grey would have written. I wonder if the author read the same books and quite possibly unconsciously is channeling John Grey or something.