I find when I'm developing my own view on something, and I discuss it with someone (or think about discussing it, or even be near someone), that I somehow feel

I find when I'm developing my own view on something, and I discuss it with someone (or think about discussing it, or even be near someone), that I somehow feel a compulsion to either agree with them or disagree with them along the dimension they conceptualize it - and my own perspective/terms are lost. Like being interrupted when building up a model of code in your mind. I think this is our herd instinct, needing to fit in, in how a situation is conceived, disagreeing only in terms of that conception. Changing the theory is deeply anti-social.