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Just to be clear - if they say "no" then I don't recline. But I can see that this isn't clear from my original post so sorry for causing confusion

• darklajid 11y ago
  Hmm.. Let me explain my (probably broken) mental model. But I'm not sure it really is about the yes/no answer - it is more a display of courtesy to someone whom you are about to cause discomfort I parse that as - You think reclining causes discomfort (Not sure I agree, but let's take this as given for now) - But you ask the one behind you For me it followed that if the person behind you says 'Sure, go ahead' you'd knowingly cause them discomfort (albeit after asking them / with their consent)? For the sake of sanity: Can you pick that apart for me? Text is a crappy medium, this isn't my native language and nuances are hard. Where did I fail?
  • rfergie 11y ago
    From what you say there I think you understand me. Throughout this interaction I am assuming a few things: 1. Reclining causes discomfort to the person behind 2. But the amount of discomfort varies quite a bit from person to person (e.g. I can imagine that a small child is less discomforted than others) 3. I can't really tell for sure how much discomfort reclining will cause so I ask if it is OK to recline. Then it is up to the person behind to decide how comfortable they are with this. Are you suggesting that I shouldn't recline at all because it causes discomfort to those behind even if the amount of discomfort might be negligible?