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a month ago i was walking up the street and saw a drunk man collapsed, unconscious next to a set of bins, people walking past him, some stepping over his prone
by nemof 11y ago
a month ago i was walking up the street and saw a drunk man collapsed, unconscious next to a set of bins, people walking past him, some stepping over his prone form.
i stopped to help him, no-one else seemed to be. no doubt in large part in aversion to having to deal with a rough looking drunk.
shortly after i'd tried to rouse him and started to call an ambulance, a girl came over to see if everything was ok. she told me that she'd previously walked past him and wanted to do something, but had been scared to in case he was unpredictable, because of the state that he was in (more than likely booze+drugs). to give you some sense, i'm 6' 2 and built like a bus. i dont think twice about intervening in situations, because i never feel unsafe doing so. unfortunately, not everyone feels as safe as i do, and that's not to say that something bad couldn't still happen to me.
i've seen enough situations like this, drunks lying prone in a state, couples having arguments that devolve into fisticuffs, horrible slow motion accidents, to think that these situations fall roughly into
im too scared to help
i dont want the trouble (someone else will sort it out)
i literally dont give a damn
i think on the whole, most do give a damn, but i think they'd be more likely to stop to help with an accident then they would a homeless person in a bad state.
one time i kind of regret trying to help someone was an elderly man who i saw in distress trying to get home. he was walking along, but the further he got down the road, the harder it became for him to walk, he was so obviously having trouble i went up to him and asked him if he needed help. i ended up chaperoning him all the way to his house, which was around the corner, up a hill. of course he had to go and collapse half way up the hill from exhaustion. at this point i thought, fuck this, and called an ambulance.
thankfully the old man finally managed to get home eventually. it turned out he'd sneaked out for an amble to the shops, according to his carer, even though he couldn't really walk well enough to do so. him collapsing on me as i manhandled him to the ground is one of the scariest things that's ever happened to me. i thought that by helping him i'd inadvertently participated in giving the guy a heat attack or something.
- antihero 11y agoIt definitely helps being big and confident when there's situations that are personally risky. I've broken up a fair few fights in Brighton now, because I'm a giant 6'1" dude, and so I can just bearhug most people whilst asking them their name and distracting them. Also, once you take action, bystanders seem to be more confident at coming forward and the bouncers start to help de-escalate if they aren't complete numpties. I wouldn't really expect this of anyone - it is a degree of risk, same with drunks, aggro couples (I stay well away from that shit unless someone's being proper fucked up). This is kind of different from situations where someone's hurt and people are just ignoring them. I guess most people don't know the number for local police. Though, I'm not sure I've ever heard of anyone getting in trouble for calling 999 to report an incapacitated drunk, even if it's a "regular".