>but the "common wisdom" is that to be happy, you should focus on yourself and your relationships as opposed to the world around you Apart from the genetics th

>but the "common wisdom" is that to be happy, you should focus on yourself and your relationships as opposed to the world around you Apart from the genetics thing, part of it is that most people are not going to be involved in impactful work. They do bullshit jobs and fret over it way too much than they really should. In turn, they lose out on quality family time and take people close to them for granted. So some of the comments about 'deathbed regrets' is actually valid for such people. If they were really fretting about solving cancer, aids or any thing that would change millions of lives, the apparent wisdom would immediately make less sense.