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Reading this took me back to the experience of grieving for my dad. The realization that it will never be okay, but that I can become more okay with it never b
by curun1r 11y ago
Reading this took me back to the experience of grieving for my dad.
The realization that it will never be okay, but that I can become more okay with it never being okay. The bizarre feeling of grief so unbearable and yet it being one of the few connections left to someone so important to me, and so being unwilling to let go of it. Even to this day, I revel in that grief. I've learned to look at it as consequence of so many wonderful experiences instead of hurt of so many missed experiences. The feeling of that void inside me is the same, but my reaction to that feeling is now to smile rather than to cry.
My heart goes out to her in this time when everything is so fresh and so confusing. I know the feeling of having had someone taken from me long before I even thought about the possibility and yet I'm sure her experience is distinct from mine in so many ways. But in writing about her pain, she's allowed me to tap back into mine in a way that I'm thankful for.
- themgt 11y agoI always loved this scene from the movie Rabbit Hole ... "a brick in your pocket" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKZKyjCbB-M https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKZKyjCbB-M
- aaa667 11y agoAs someone experiencing grief for the first time one and a half weeks ago, I'm beginning to understand that bizarreness of grief - the ups and downs, that void.. A lot of people I've spoken to who have experienced grief tell me the same thing - that it will never be ok, but that you can become more ok with it - that you will have moments where you briefly forget and that you get more of these moments over time. I could never have understood this emotion before - I thought it was like in the movies where you're constantly crying, but it's a lot more complex and strange than that..
- sambeau 11y agoBe kind to yourself. Don't rush. You are in recovery. It is my experience that grief is an illness and it lasts more like a year. Like all major illnesses there will be scars. However, It will be OK.
- scott_s 11y agoIt’s not sobbing, collapsing, moaning grief. It’s phantom-limb pain. It aches, it throbs, there’s nothing there, and yet you never want it to go away. Final lines from "The Day I Started Lying to Ruth: A cancer doctor on losing his wife to cancer", http://nymag.com/news/features/cancer-peter-bach-2014-5/ http://nymag.com/news/features/cancer-peter-bach-2014-5/