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> Single mother rates aren't because women are some kind of super feminists who refuse to marry. The majority of single mother families are the result of failed
by wtbob 11y ago
> Single mother rates aren't because women are some kind of super feminists who refuse to marry. The majority of single mother families are the result of failed marriages and long term relationships.
Failed marriages may in many cases be the result of an independent attitude (such as the single mother in the article, who divorced her husband because he cheated on her). Is it good that she left a bad husband? Is it bad that her child is growing up in a broken home? Well, that's something folks can disagree on.
As for long term relationships, I believe that phenomenon is a symptom of America's incarceration rates among the poor: free men are so outnumbered by women that they have no need to marry.
- Retric 11y agoSaying "broken home" is ridiculous. A home with a cheating husband is already broken, and nobody calls a widowed family "broken".
- jessaustin 11y agoYou don't like the phrase "broken home", but you're happy to talk about "cheating"? [EDIT: removed confrontational language] Both of those idioms attempt to universalize judgments that are necessarily personal and cultural. There are many happy productive intact families who have infidelity or [EDIT: in some cases perhaps] better said polyamory in their past or even present. Marriage is what married people choose to make it, every day. Is it telling that you particularly mention "a cheating husband"?
- philwelch 11y agoAs someone in a polyamorous marriage, polyamory and cheating are two entirely different things.
- Retric 11y agoI actually have no problem with non-traditional marriages. However, some form of "forsaking all others" is one of the most common vows. So, assuming it was part of the original covenant then it was clearly that convent was broken well before 'divorce.' Some groups go so far as to consider a couple divorced on the first infidelity. Also, generally it’s not the initial cheating party that instigates divorce proceedings as your better off divorcing before infidelity than after. So, if we are talking about female divorcers then the infidelity would generally be on the male side (excluding LGBT).