Am I the only one who feels very uncomfortable with the fact people these days are using "jerk" and "asshole" as an "objective" description of other people qual

Am I the only one who feels very uncomfortable with the fact people these days are using "jerk" and "asshole" as an "objective" description of other people qualities? Is it a long time since this became "normal" in English? Not only it sounds vulgar and disgusting, it is very poor way to express your opinion as well. If I'm calling you "a jerk" it means nothing except the fact I don't like something about you (which maybe also not entirely true). Things like "putting your feet on the table" and "speaking first" are concrete and measurable, "being a jerk" is not. In fact, you cannot be "a jerk" at all, you can be somebody, who was called "a jerk" by somebody else. And why am I calling you a jerk? You can never know. Maybe I consider you being a jerk, because you don't open the door for a lady. Maybe, because you do open the door and those are being "oppressive towards female equality" or some other ridiculous thing.