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First of all, this was a very touching post. I'm glad things worked out in the end. I have a question which I definitely don't mean to be taken in the wrong wa

First of all, this was a very touching post. I'm glad things worked out in the end. I have a question which I definitely don't mean to be taken in the wrong way, so please just take it as a purely informational query. If I were to find myself in this situation, my first instinct would be to move back in with my parents or otherwise lean on my network of family and friends (couch-surfing, etc), especially if I was reduced to homelessness. Please feel free to ignore this question if it's too personal, etc, but were family/friends not among your list of available resources, or if they were, was there some other reason you couldn't/wouldn't go there?

DanBC 11y ago
You ask a great, important question. I have zero idea about OP. We know that men do not seek help. That's why so many men die from testicular cancer - a disease that's mostly survivable if caught early. Campaigns to get me to check and get help if they find anything have reduced the death rate, but we did need to tell some men to seek help. We see a similar thing with suicide. "Soften the Fck Up" is an Australian campaign to make it easier for a man to seek help than to die by suicide. (They don't censor the word fuck on their website). http://softenthefckup.com.au/ http://softenthefckup.com.au/ They're linked to Beyond Blue which has some research about men seeking help. http://www.beyondblue.org.au/resources/research/research-projects/research-projects/men-s-help-seeking-behaviour http://www.beyondblue.org.au/resources/research/research-pro... It seems that some men just have a hard time seeking help, even when things are desperate, even for things that are treatable and survivable.
Futurebot 11y ago
Keep in mind that not everyone has living relatives (mine were all dead by the time I was 20), and some only have a very weak network of "friends" to fall back on.
shakycode 11y ago
I actually have no family and the one friend I could count on was a "full house". A couch would have been much nicer than a chair at Starbucks, for sure!
j_lev 11y ago
I've found that whether they mean it or not, friends are often good for a place to crash until you actually need it. There's always a reason they can't let you stay.

DanBC 11y ago

You ask a great, important question. I have zero idea about OP. We know that men do not seek help. That's why so many men die from testicular cancer - a disease that's mostly survivable if caught early. Campaigns to get me to check and get help if they find anything have reduced the death rate, but we did need to tell some men to seek help. We see a similar thing with suicide. "Soften the Fck Up" is an Australian campaign to make it easier for a man to seek help than to die by suicide. (They don't censor the word fuck on their website). http://softenthefckup.com.au/ http://softenthefckup.com.au/ They're linked to Beyond Blue which has some research about men seeking help. http://www.beyondblue.org.au/resources/research/research-projects/research-projects/men-s-help-seeking-behaviour http://www.beyondblue.org.au/resources/research/research-pro... It seems that some men just have a hard time seeking help, even when things are desperate, even for things that are treatable and survivable.

Futurebot 11y ago

Keep in mind that not everyone has living relatives (mine were all dead by the time I was 20), and some only have a very weak network of "friends" to fall back on.

shakycode 11y ago

I actually have no family and the one friend I could count on was a "full house". A couch would have been much nicer than a chair at Starbucks, for sure!

j_lev 11y ago

I've found that whether they mean it or not, friends are often good for a place to crash until you actually need it. There's always a reason they can't let you stay.