"That's such a crap excuse." What, taking family before everything else? The relative effect a person can have to the society where they live in is usually non

"That's such a crap excuse." What, taking family before everything else? The relative effect a person can have to the society where they live in is usually non-existent (barring exceptional circumstances). Otoh the impact any parent can have on their families wellbeing by providing food and being an accessible parent, is usually significant. So, does one choose the action that is unlikely to cause significant positive effect but is an opportunity cost, or the action that has obvious short term observable effects? Man, it would be way cooler and more relaxing to be a moral crusader rather than a father but I choose the latter. It also drains me to a point where I really don't have any excess capacity to save the world.