"In a place with one of the best gender-ratios in the country for single women, female friends I talk to complain that most of the men are, in fact, not availab

"In a place with one of the best gender-ratios in the country for single women, female friends I talk to complain that most of the men are, in fact, not available; they are all busy working on their start-ups, or data-crunching themselves. They have prioritized self-improvement and careers over relationships." I'm particularly curious about what she believes the alternative option is here. Are we supposed to waste our time and self-esteem with uncertainty and self doubt in the pursuit of a relationship, or focus on something that brings immediate and tangible results, and keep building up our confidence through building and administrating tech like coding through Python and working with Linux? Personally I'll always take the the one that brings tangible results and confidence before the one that brings depression and uncertainty.