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You have a good point about the costs of therapy and medication. This is just a bit of my anger seeping through. My wife has a trigger. I'm one of 2 who know a
by kefka 11y ago
You have a good point about the costs of therapy and medication. This is just a bit of my anger seeping through.
My wife has a trigger. I'm one of 2 who know about it. She was beaten by an old boyfriend years ago with a certain type of belt.
I found out about this because I was taking off the belt from my pants, and she suddenly got quiet and started to shake. Then I realized that she couldn't speak. She would do things, like "Go over there" and likewise. She was expecting me to hit her with the belt, and was nigh catatonic from it.
She was also "raped", when she was with a guy who I am friends with (before I was dating her). He didn't know about that belt thing. He takes his pants off, and she's triggered. She didn't want to have sex with him, but did so because of the belt. Was this rape, considering she took off her clothes and made herself compliant? Well, not really. But it wasn't consensual.
That's what I'm used to when they say they are triggered.
- peterwwillis 11y agoI've known many people who are similarly afflicted. It's very unfortunate and scary and sad. It's also the thing that makes me super pissed off when certain people claim consent is dead simple, or that triggers are unimportant to consider. My hope is that the more these stories are told, the more they will be investigated as serious topics to consider for their potential to negatively affect people's lives. We don't have a good system to deal with them now, but hopefully someday soon we can.