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>> I think there is a stigma attached going out alone though - I have random people ask me if I am alone and seem surprised by the answer. This is the hardest
by dopeboy 11y ago
>> I think there is a stigma attached going out alone though - I have random people ask me if I am alone and seem surprised by the answer.
This is the hardest part to combat, especially at a bar when there's no attraction (say, a sports game) on. There is such an intense expectation for group social activity in nightlife that makes it very hard to go solo.
For this reason, I almost never have a good time going out to a bar by myself so I'm surprised you enjoy it. Theatres and restaurants, on the other hand, I have much better luck with.
- misiti3780 11y agoi agree - i think it is important to not look at your phone or a tv (when you are out), the reason you are out is to presumably meet people and have fun. the easiest way to avoid this issue in my experience is * make sure the bars you go in are crowded. * given (1), always look for a long line for a drink, it gives you a lot of time to start a convo * never sit down, always be standing (makes it it easier for people to approach you) * go out later at night, people are more intoxicated and are more willing to talk (for better or for worse) if a random person asks me if i am alone these days, i usually just tell them i am waiting for a friend that is running late and they drop it - but if i follow that check list, i never run into that situation anymore anyways. I hate sports and dont follow them so I can never use them as a conversation starter. i live in NYC and this works in the Lower East Side / East Village / West Village - San Fran might be tougher - not sure