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What is particularly worrisome, in my opinion, is the slow creep of market values into our daily lives. "Performance bonuses" to spouses? WTF? What happened to

What is particularly worrisome, in my opinion, is the slow creep of market values into our daily lives. "Performance bonuses" to spouses? WTF? What happened to the sense of duty that comes from filial piety and love? Economics has no business inside a household. People oughta leave it in the market place where it belongs.

FLUX-YOU 11y ago
>What happened to the sense of duty that comes from filial piety and love? Probably got mashed up in the potential divorce court paperwork. What I'm really curious about is how you come to negotiate such terms and how that conversation plays out, but it really wouldn't surprise me if both sides approached the marriage in rational, economic terms and enjoyed that approach.
platz 11y ago
What would you say to people who use kanban to plan their wedding or family goals?
- littletimmy 11y ago
  Nothing, man. I feel this society is too alien for me. One of these days I'm going to quit it and go live on a farm. Perhaps I feel this way because I am an immigrant and family culture is very different in my (Asian) country. I just cannot fathom such calculating behavior when it comes to relationships.
vijayr 11y ago
WTF is one way of looking at it. Another way is - it is between two perfectly consenting, smart people. If they want to write such prenups, why should you and I care? The other day I was watching a talk by a professor on financial incentives - one of the topics he touched upon was whether we should use financial incentives to encourage kids to read (2 dollars per book, some schools are already trying it). The audience gave reasons for both sides of the debate and it was quite interesting. Point is, we are already using financial incentives for all kinds of things that feel weird (paying kids to read?). I personally don't think this is a great idea but I'm sure many people would disagree. So why not in personal lives too?
thesteamboat 11y ago
You may be interested in this article written by a couple that doesn't agree with you. Granted, they seem to be extreme outliers in many other ways, but it's evidence that it works for some people. http://messymatters.com/autonomy/ http://messymatters.com/autonomy/
bgilroy26 11y ago
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=economics http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=economics

FLUX-YOU 11y ago

>What happened to the sense of duty that comes from filial piety and love? Probably got mashed up in the potential divorce court paperwork. What I'm really curious about is how you come to negotiate such terms and how that conversation plays out, but it really wouldn't surprise me if both sides approached the marriage in rational, economic terms and enjoyed that approach.

platz 11y ago

What would you say to people who use kanban to plan their wedding or family goals?

littletimmy 11y ago
Nothing, man. I feel this society is too alien for me. One of these days I'm going to quit it and go live on a farm. Perhaps I feel this way because I am an immigrant and family culture is very different in my (Asian) country. I just cannot fathom such calculating behavior when it comes to relationships.

vijayr 11y ago

WTF is one way of looking at it. Another way is - it is between two perfectly consenting, smart people. If they want to write such prenups, why should you and I care? The other day I was watching a talk by a professor on financial incentives - one of the topics he touched upon was whether we should use financial incentives to encourage kids to read (2 dollars per book, some schools are already trying it). The audience gave reasons for both sides of the debate and it was quite interesting. Point is, we are already using financial incentives for all kinds of things that feel weird (paying kids to read?). I personally don't think this is a great idea but I'm sure many people would disagree. So why not in personal lives too?

thesteamboat 11y ago

You may be interested in this article written by a couple that doesn't agree with you. Granted, they seem to be extreme outliers in many other ways, but it's evidence that it works for some people. http://messymatters.com/autonomy/ http://messymatters.com/autonomy/

bgilroy26 11y ago

http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=economics http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=economics