The excuses are part of the explanation ;) I don't know why people expect to have metaphors from the macro world that can be readily applied to quantum mechanic

The excuses are part of the explanation ;) I don't know why people expect to have metaphors from the macro world that can be readily applied to quantum mechanics - the whole particle-wave duality for example seems just an attempt to explain experimental results / equations with two partially broken complementary metaphors - just because this is all we have at hand in the everyday world...