You're building yourself a false dichotomy. You can put yourself first. 99.99% of healthy people do. Having such social programs in place doesn't preclude that

You're building yourself a false dichotomy. You can put yourself first. 99.99% of healthy people do. Having such social programs in place doesn't preclude that nor does it impede on your lifestyle. I would say that with the acknowledgment and understanding of how your circumstances brought you to where you are in life comes another component: how you react to that awareness. If you can see how you benefit from the disparity and injustice, and that something can be done about it, yet you willingly choose comfort and the possibility of lower taxes, the judgment is cast on you. Your happiness, safety, enjoyment and advancement in life is not mutually exclusive with ensuring society provides a sufficient safety net.