Perhaps a good start would be to read "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. It doesn't address your concern directly but in the book you w

Perhaps a good start would be to read "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. It doesn't address your concern directly but in the book you will find the pattern you seek for being perceived as kind by other people. http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People-ebook/dp/B0044XUINS http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People-ebook...