Thank you for pointing this one out in particular. I've noticed myself falling into this trap at times, which is sad because it's something I know is frustratin

Thank you for pointing this one out in particular. I've noticed myself falling into this trap at times, which is sad because it's something I know is frustrating when I hear it from others. The pattern in the examples you mentioned is the desire, conscious or not, to twist the knife a little and squeeze out a "sorry" from the other person. The desire for someone else to realize an error they've made turns into a desire for guilt, a general "think better next time" that is just specific enough to hurt but vague enough to not actually be helpful. It's like training an animal with a blunt instrument and expecting that to get results anytime fast.