Exactly this. IMHO, the first paragraph quoted above is especially important to understand. This post reads like someone discovering the line between aggressi

Exactly this. IMHO, the first paragraph quoted above is especially important to understand. This post reads like someone discovering the line between aggressive and assertive. Aggressive is most definitely unkind. Assertive is often confused with unkind, but it isn't really that: it's about demonstrating respect both for yourself and for those around you.