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Spot on. I think it's tough, particularly as a young guy, to hold back on being overly confrontational. I used to be horrible to be around, not just professiona
by weeksie 11y ago
Spot on. I think it's tough, particularly as a young guy, to hold back on being overly confrontational. I used to be horrible to be around, not just professionally, but in nearly every way. Super fighty and abrasive.
I'd like to think that it was through mindful practice that I've managed to tame my aggression. Perhaps it is, partly. But the real reason that I'm a lot easier to get along with now probably has to do with aging out of the testosterone-flooded decade of my 20s.
- aidenn0 11y agoI think it is mindful practice; I'm in my mid 30s and probably more abrasive than in my early 20s, despite having much less testosterone-fueled aggression.
- weeksie 11y agoHa! Perhaps. I'm sure it's a lot of things. I also grew up working on fishing boats in Alaska and what passed for civil discourse out there would be fighting words in most professional environments. Mindfulness is tough though. I've actually had to work pretty hard on being aware of my reactions and the intentions behind them. If I find myself getting upset, my face getting hot or my fingers tingling, then I ask myself what it is I want out of the situation I'm in. Usually the best way to get that is to take a deep breath and try to understand _why_ the other person doesn't understand my point of view. Of course, being aggressive is a very useful trait at times. Learning when to use that trait is the tricky part.