A lot of this comes down to confidence. How comfortable are you with yourself? A lot of our communication is non verbal. How slow and steady you talk. How your

A lot of this comes down to confidence. How comfortable are you with yourself? A lot of our communication is non verbal. How slow and steady you talk. How your body opens up to or turns away from others. Do you lean in, or are you leaning away? Are your eyes bugging with excitement or are they half open and disinterested? A lot of the people who "talk smart" are actually moving smart. Chin slightly up, shoulders back, arms uncrossed, slightly leaning back. This all projects confidence, and if you are exuding confidence, people listen to you. That's assuming you have something interesting to say =]. Another thing you can do to project confidence is to actually be confident. This is earned by accomplishing hard things in your life, and putting in a lot of spiritual work to be happy with who you are as a person. You can lean back and hold your head up as much as you want, but if you're insecure or unsure of yourself, you will come across as a phony. Be the person you want to be. Be the person who is exactly where you are supposed to be right now both in mind and spirit. Confidence will follow. And so will conversation. Another thing you can do is to just be a great listener. Don't just wait for your chance to speak. If you have a really great point you want to bring up but the conversation diverges, take a breath, and let it go. Slow your mind and be present. Charm and wit take practice. So if you want to be good, go to a lot of parties with different types of people and talk to everyone you can. Practice, practice, practice. Nobody ever got good at this stuff by sitting at home listening to podcasts. Get out there are start conversations with people. Learn to intuit people's moods. Is this person sad? Maybe they lost someone recently. Talk about loss. Relate to them. Is this person happy? Bring up a cool experience you had and see if they'll share one they had. This kind of intuition comes from practice, from learning to read bodies and faces and moods. Keep in mind I'm not an expert, but as an introvert I've been working on all this for a long, long time. Good luck =].