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I met my girlfriend at a coffee shop. Previous relationship was through OkCupid, and before that, I met at 6 AM in an airport. Where do you live? Might be easi
by cstrahan 11y ago
I met my girlfriend at a coffee shop. Previous relationship was through OkCupid, and before that, I met at 6 AM in an airport.
Where do you live? Might be easier in an urban area. I used to live in Dallas, TX, and that sucked pretty hard - meeting _anyone_ was pretty difficult. As a fairly shy/lonely person in high school, I remember my dad suggesting that I go walk the dog around the block... I'd take the dog out for a couple hours and never see a single soul, aside from people pulling straight into their garages.
I now live in Washington, DC, and it's nearly impossible to _not_ meet someone. I'll start conversations running into people on nights out, chat people up at bars/coffee shops, elevators, the gym, whatever.
I'd suggest a few things:
1) Talk to everyone. I mean _EVERYONE_. If you're used to striking up conversations impulsively, it makes it that much easier to meet someone you find attractive/interesting. If you don't, you'll likely over think things when it matters.
2) Live somewhere social, somewhere urban. Suburbia and rural places attract a certain type of people, the kind that like to pull straight into their garage and chill in their backyard, preferably oblivious of their neighbors. That certainly doesn't help your odds.
Good luck!
- brandonmenc 11y ago> Talk to everyone. I mean _EVERYONE_. This. You must get good at "small talk." You must learn to actually enjoy small talk. There is no other way. Almost everyone I know who has a hard time meeting people hates small talk. That's a problem. If you're desperate, get a job running a cash register part time. It's the best place to practice small talk, and you'll learn to enjoy it because it makes the day go by faster.
- nailer 11y agoThis. Not only for meeting life partners, but also friends, business contacts, and investors.
- fallinghawks 11y agoAnd if you're a terribly shy person (and I know a number of geeks who are), start with something as simple as talking to the person at a checkout register or the waitperson. When they ask how you are, give a short summary, then ask them how they are doing. Try to see it as a real question rather than a greeting. Do this regularly and it will get easier and more natural.