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This is why I never want to have kids. I deeply resent being born and being forced to outlive my parents (his point 2).
by lmz 12y ago
This is why I never want to have kids. I deeply resent being born and being forced to outlive my parents (his point 2).
- brador 12y agoDon't think of it as outliving, think of it as continuing their legacy.
- gohrt 12y agoKids often bring joy. Consider reaching out to kids (who are already born) and helping them enjoy their life, and brighten yours. I don't know how old you are, but in many cases, elderly folks have time to wind down their lives in a graceful way, to the point where saying goodbye is bearable. Obviously people can still die accidentally/early, and ultimately you'll outlive about half the people you meet, but there is a way to learn to appreciate the time you have together, and to let go when that time ends.
- lmz 12y agoIt's not the "getting left behind" angle that I don't like. It's the fact that I have to wait +/- 20 more years for them to die before I can FOAD because that is what society expects.
- alexashka 12y agoYou need a reality check - you're placing blame on outside factors (like your parents) for not being where YOU'd like to be in life. Owning up to that is the first step toward recognizing how incompetent you are at being happy. I used to be a moping ball of negativity myself once upon a time - it just doesn't work. Sooner or later you have to recognize that the way you are isn't working and take steps to change that. Today sounds like a good day to start.
- lmz 12y agoI don't blame them for where I am. I blame them for "I am" and being a roadblock to me getting to "I am not".