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80% of males as less than average looking This could be partly due to the fact that especially good-looking men can find a mate easily, so they never get aroun

by ramchip 17y ago

80% of males as less than average looking This could be partly due to the fact that especially good-looking men can find a mate easily, so they never get around to registering on a dating site. To the folks on HN it's probably a normal thing, but I believe dating sites still have a certain 'for losers' stigma in other social circles. And on the other side, perhaps girls that are very picky cannot find a guy to their liking so they end up on dating sites in greater numbers than the average.

potatolicious 17y ago
If this is true - why isn't it also true in reverse? (i.e., good-looking women can find a mate just as easily, so would not be registered on a dating site).
- sgk284 17y ago
  Because, with all do respect do my fellow men, most guys out there really are assholes... and unfortunately many social norms reinforce they're actions. I've spoken with quite a few females who hope to find someone who isn't an asshole through online services. To put it another way, what's the probability of a girl finding a quality guy at a bar versus finding a guy who just wants to take her to bed? I know a lot of girls who are sick of that game. As a result, you get a lot of guys who aren't attractive enough to pick up random chicks at bars and you get a lot of women who are sick of being picked up by the types of guys that make a sport out of picking up random chicks at bars. Those types of girls tend to be attractive. That's not to say that everyone in online dating services falls into one of these two buckets, but that is why you see such weird skews in the data.
steveklabnik 17y ago
okcupid also has a higher than usual amount of people who are in open relationships or polyamorous, so there might be more better looking dudes than you'd expect.
- gaius 17y ago
  No, that would have the opposite effect.
  - steveklabnik 17y ago
    I'm not trying to make a value judgement based on lifestyle, I'm just saying that not all the men on okcupid are there because they can't find a girl another way.

by ramchip 17y ago

potatolicious 17y ago

If this is true - why isn't it also true in reverse? (i.e., good-looking women can find a mate just as easily, so would not be registered on a dating site).

sgk284 17y ago
Because, with all do respect do my fellow men, most guys out there really are assholes... and unfortunately many social norms reinforce they're actions. I've spoken with quite a few females who hope to find someone who isn't an asshole through online services. To put it another way, what's the probability of a girl finding a quality guy at a bar versus finding a guy who just wants to take her to bed? I know a lot of girls who are sick of that game. As a result, you get a lot of guys who aren't attractive enough to pick up random chicks at bars and you get a lot of women who are sick of being picked up by the types of guys that make a sport out of picking up random chicks at bars. Those types of girls tend to be attractive. That's not to say that everyone in online dating services falls into one of these two buckets, but that is why you see such weird skews in the data.

steveklabnik 17y ago

okcupid also has a higher than usual amount of people who are in open relationships or polyamorous, so there might be more better looking dudes than you'd expect.

gaius 17y ago
No, that would have the opposite effect.
- steveklabnik 17y ago
  I'm not trying to make a value judgement based on lifestyle, I'm just saying that not all the men on okcupid are there because they can't find a girl another way.